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"I will remember the kisses
our lips raw with love
and how you gave me
everything you had
and how I
offered you what was left of
me"

Raw With Love
Charles Bukowski


How can I go forward when I don’t know which way I’m facing?

John Lennon (via purplebuddhaproject)

Oct 22    + 339

1. Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards. Date him when he sees that you’re hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you’re gross sobbing. The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable. Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting.

2. Make sure he has scars on the back of his hands, it’s a good sign he has experience either fighting or making things - creation is an act of selflessness and bruised knuckles are a good sign he knows how to defend himself. You’ve got too much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. If he’s never thrown a punch, let him at least have tasted the insanity of bringing an idea into existence. Rough palms are better than soft ones, they have been salted by this earth and made into leather. Callouses are evidence he has lived, that he has broken skin and been in pain over and over and over again and still came back to the source of it. People rub against each other. Don’t marry him if he can’t handle even a little blister.

3. Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting,see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

4. Trust your instincts. If he ever makes you feel unsafe, don’t make excuses, just get up and leave. That’s all there is to it. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

5. If he puts money before you, he’ll keep pushing you to the bottom of the pile until you become his last priority. It’s one thing if he can’t afford what you want, it’s another if he has the cash but won’t spring for a box of chicken mcnuggets. Money and love are arch enemies. 62% of divorces occur due to economic strain. Make sure keeping you is more important than his 401k.

6. How a man treats animals is a good indicator of how he treats children. If you see him raise a hand to a dog, pack your things into a little black bag. Animals at their worst are only half as annoying as a toddler on their best behaviour. Your kids will be beautiful, but they will also misbehave. Same goes for waiters and hotel maids - if he’s rude to those who are working for minimum wage, it says a lot about how he sees himself. Patience is rare and so important. If he’s not forgiving to a dog, he’s not good for your kids.

7. If he isn’t in awe of you, he doesn’t deserve you. You are my little girl and you were born perfect. If he can’t see that, it’s his loss. There is someone who thinks your flaws power his heart. Be strong. If he asks you to change, be like like rock of your birthstone, do not waver. You are wondrous just the way that you are.

My father’s recipe for the man I should marry (part 1/2 of a series). /// r.i.d (via fearlessknightsandfairytales)

(via fearlessknightsandfairytales)

Oct 22    + 152064

(Source: 3intheam, via iheart-stonefield)

Oct 22    + 6301

stilezs:

That man on the bridge … Who was he ?

        I   k n e w   h i m

(via iheart-stonefield)

Oct 22    + 2116

fluoric:

an alley (by Hisa Foto)

fluoric:

an alley (by Hisa Foto)

Oct 22    + 112

There is no teacher, living or past, who can give us the actual understanding of truth. A teacher can only put our feet upon the path and point the way. That is all. It is wholly dependent on the individual to make their way to truth.

Paul Twitchell (via infamoussayings)

(via infamoussayings)

Oct 22    + 20

searchingtheanswers:

Made this today and I just wanted it to reflect the beautiful words that Caitlyn writes in her poems.

searchingtheanswers:

Made this today and I just wanted it to reflect the beautiful words that Caitlyn writes in her poems.

(via alonesomes)

Oct 21    + 536

puppy-cemetery:

Ways I Hurt Myself To Hurt You, Lora Mathis
An ongoing photo series exploring people’s destructive habits following breakups.

(via tsktsks)

Oct 21    + 32741

in-describable:

went on a drive bc im feelin anxious and needed to listen to bon iver with the windows down

(via tsktsks)

Oct 21    + 18670

lizclimo:

that costume is incredible 

lizclimo:

that costume is incredible 

Oct 21    + 62037

(i’m mad at you)
(we are on skype)

(i am giving you the silent treatment)
(because sometimes you really really piss me off)

(you are across the country, far far from me)
(the only thing remaining is your shirt on my body)

(and this big ball of fiery emotion)
(jumping back and forth: from my heart to yours)

(from your heart to mine)
(back…)

(and…)
(fourth…)

(so fast,)
(it’s hard to breathe)

i’m mad at you but you are playing your guitar for me
the strings whispering apologies

the strings humming in love
your fingers strumming my ribs

you want it to end, you want me happy
singing for me, your handsome voice

right now i will say the words ‘i love you’
because god dammit, i do

(and what’s the point of holding it back)
(i love you, i love you)

there is silence
there is relief

you sigh
you say

‘fuck,
i love you too.’

vanessa garcia, "i love you" (via petrichour)

Oct 21    + 152

(Source: vacants, via ef-florescent)

Oct 21    + 22178

The possession of knowledge does not kill the sense of wonder and mystery. There is always more mystery.

Anaïs Nin (via purplebuddhaproject)

Oct 20    + 369

s.t.